Category questions
Ask and ye shall receive…
I’ve gotten a lot of really great feedback, kind words, encouragements and hard truths in my experience here so far and I’m thankful for all of it.
I do a lot of talking about stuff on my mind, so I thought I’d invite you to ask me about things on your mind. Questions about things that you’re curious about… be it borderline, personal, quirky, kinky, or utterly random… and I’ll do my best to answer and post my responses.
Thanks for reading and sticking it out with me so far.
E-mail to: Havennyx@gmail.com
Questions from across the Borderline…
Hm. I know most psychiatrists won’t consider diagnosis until at least 18. 21 seems a little high. This is mainly due to the fact that people’s personalities are still developing and they don’t want to influence how your personality might evolve on its own. I would advise working on the symptoms. Even without the broader label of BPD, the underlying symptoms are there and undeniable. Working with a psych or a therapist on all of those things will certainly still help. Even with my therapist we don’t sit there and dwell on BPD. We work on my depression, handling and coping with my dissociation, finding healthier ways to manage my emotions instead of cutting, etc. Even without an official diagnosis there is still a lot of help you get for yoursel
Questions from across the Borderline
My psychiatrist won’t even consider borderline as a possible diagnosis because I’m not 21. Is that normal? Do you have any advice?
Hm. I know most psychiatrists won’t consider diagnosis until at least 18. 21 seems a little high. This is mainly due to the fact that people’s personalities are still developing and they don’t want to influence how your personality might evolve on its own. I would advise working on the symptoms, those issues that lead you to believe you have a borderline personality. Even without the official label of BPD, the underlying symptoms are there and undeniable. Working with a psych or a therapist on all of those things will certainly still help. With my therapist we don’t sit there and dwell on BPD. We work on my depression, handling and coping with my dissociation, finding healthier ways to manage my emotions instead of cutting, etc. Even without an official diagnosis there is still a lot of help you can get for yourself.
Comments from across the Borderline…
A reader left me this lovely message today.
I really appreciate you sharing your experience on here, it really helps people like me to know that there are other people dealing with the same thing. At the same time, I wish I could help you as I know even if you can talk about this openly that it still hurts to some degree.
~Haven~
Questions, comments, concerns…
Hello!
I’m not sure I’ve said this openly so for the record: If ever you have a question, concern, or inquiry, please, feel free to leave me a comment or e-mail me @ havennyx@gmail.com . I’d be more than happy to address it or give my opinion.
Cheers,
Haven
Questions from across the Borderline…
Hi there,
I stumbled across your tumblr about a week or two ago and it has taken me until now to pluck up the courage to ask you this…
but, how do you live with your bpd?
I was recently diagnosed and the whole idea of it has crippled me. I was fine before my psych labelled me, now everything seems like it has been turned on its head.
I’m just a little lost.
x
I think one of the important things to remember is, nothing has actually changed. You’re still the same person you were before the label, you’ll continue to be you, even after a label. The label doesn’t really mean anything anyways. It’s a starting point to help you on a path to a better life. That label, however, does not define who you are or the life you ultimately choose to lead. I can’t say it will be easy for you, but for me, the label doesn’t mean anything but something to keep in mind as I work through all the various issues I’m working through. It’s a category header, with all the things I’m working on listed underneath. It’s also kind of encouraging to know that what I’m going through has been worked on enough to have a label. It means that people have researched, lived through, and progressed through lives lead fully, even healed as much as we can heal. Having that label means you’re not alone. Others have been where you are, are where you are, and others will be there too. You’re not alone. If it didn’t have a label, we would all be right where we were, but probably with a less clear path of how to heal. Try not to worry about it. It’s just a couple words, not a definition for who you are, just something you’re working through.
As for how I live with it. One day at a time. I work with my psych to balance my meds with my therapy/therapist. I try to live the best life I can and hold onto the positive influences I have in my life. I can’t say it’s always easy, it can be really hard some days, but I always try to remember that as long as I’m alive, I have a chance, a choice, to bring about change in my life.